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Karen Gravano: Understanding Is Not Forgiveness

Karen Gravano

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"I don’t forgive him for that." Karen Gravano tells Ellie why understanding the life her father chose does not mean forgiving him for killing her uncle. She speaks about the families left to live with the consequences. Can you understand someone’s choices without forgiving them?

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How could you forgive your dad for killing your uncle Right Like how and what are your thoughts on that So I mean that is something that is very like close and th- this is I wanna always say like there's people the victims right Mm-hmm 19 murders It's 19 families that consider themselves victims and I always say that like all of the families are victims because these men chose this life So if I was to rationalize and say I understand why my father killed 18 people but I can't understand the 19- Mm um I'd be a hypocrite right And I don't forgive him for that but I understand that it was part of a lifestyle that he chose and unfortunately because of the rules that he lived by because of his loyalty to Cosanocha that's something that he did And unfortunately on the other end w- we we had to suffer that

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