Intimacy and Consent: When You Don’t Feel Comfortable

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it's interesting because again like sometimes I like giving a blowjob and other times I don't Other time I feel Now maybe this is something deep within me and we'll get to that but I sometimes feel that me giving a blowjob to someone is degrading me Especially when they get your head and they "Ah," make you go down- Mm and you gotta- like like you're a porn star and you- Yeah gotta throw up and all this spit But sometimes I get that feeling Sometimes I feel like why why am I giving you a blowjob This feels degrading to me Like uh and I don't know why that is I know why Why It's an issue outside of your sexual relationship Well or maybe So I got sexually abused when I was young It could be that too So it could it c- Yeah I was thinking it could be that If it brings up those memories- Yeah or if it even viscerally feels bad- Yeah it could totally be your trauma like exhibiting themselves- Yeah like through these acts However if you don't experience it all the time and maybe there are certain times where you're upset with your partner and then they want you to give them a blowjob like it is legitimately normal to feel like "I don't want to." Yeah Because outside of sex like you are not you have you haven't been treating me well Interesting Yeah That is interesting Like don't ex- like guys don't expect a blow job out of the blue if like in the relationship you have not been treating her like a queen Uh 100% Yeah