Relationship Paper Cuts: How Disrespect Destroys Intimacy

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for example recently I've had a woman they've been married 8 years- Yeah and they haven't had sex for at least 8 months and I was like "Whoa 8 months- Yeah and no sex How are you feeling Do you feel connected?" And she's like "No I have no desire I like look at him and I just don't feel like having sex with him." And I said- Well she doesn't fancy him Well yeah There's a lot more uh than that as well So definitely that plus there are other issues in their relationship right Like maybe he's been disrespectful by way of like communicating with her Right Belittling her intelligence- Mm or competence like these little things I call them paper cuts Yeah Like if you If she starts talking- Mm and you go "Oh don't listen to her What does she know?" So you're dismissing her Yes Yeah So these paper cuts can be huge can become huge wounds Mm And that is a wound in your relationship Yeah The thing is people don't notice because they're just small right Yeah Like "Oh," like "whatever It's funny He always like you know uh put his hand on my mouth when I start talking in front of his friends." Yeah I'm like "That is highly disrespectful." Yeah And those are like paper cuts and now you are so wounded You're bleeding You have no idea 'cause you just dismiss dismiss it You're like "Oh no he's just being funny." Like no he's being disrespectful Yeah And that's why you don't wanna have sex with him