BDSM and Healing: Reclaiming Choice Through Surrender

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it is so healing for them to just surrender and make 0 decision- Yeah and just receive whatever that's given to them Again that psychology I'm interested in is what makes you think like I said or whether it's just between you and your husband whatever that you wanna be beaten whipped nipple clamped you know um pussy clamped- Mm all of that Like why do you want that torture Does it have to be something that y- you're flawed or trauma or like what people say you're a politician and you need an an outlet Yeah I mean there are a few ways to think about it Mm first is someone that's very high power- Mm and they feel like they want to finally you know release all power all decision-making power and just surrender Mm-hmm And it is so healing for them to just surrender and make 0 decision- Yeah and just receive whatever that's given to them Uh the other one is that it is healing for people with trauma Mm Uh there's research out there that uh for people that perhaps have had uh maybe sexual trauma- Mm or they were abused that BDSM practices can be very healing for them in terms of reclaiming their bodies and their choices Nice Yeah Yeah that makes sense because that's on your own terms If I say "Slap me," I choose it- Yeah not because I was a victim of like let's say- Yeah you know um domestic violence- Yeah and that be- that's being done to me and I'm powerless right Uh but not to say everyone who has gone through- Mm abuse um or maltreatment will be into BDSM because in research we know that's not everybody Yeah Like some people just have a very vanilla sex life and that's fine Yeah But yeah a lot of times I've seen in my in my clients- Yeah is that if you've had a negative experience in the past you can feel that BDSM is empowering because you are the person making choices That's interesting